I realize I am probably contradicting yesterday’s blog. . . . Welcome to my world. I am a walking contradiction. . . I think it fits in with my eastern philosophical bent. . . yin and yang y’all. . . .
Before my cardio class, the instructor always tells us that if we need to take a break – do it. But don’t stop moving. It’s bad for your heart. Walk around if you need to, but don’t stop.
I don’t think I’m manic depressive, but I am an incredibly driven person. And when I get fixated on something - look out. The downside to this is that I push so hard, I usually burnout. And stop. I mean, a dead stop. The trouble with this is that there’s little motivation to continue. It takes awhile for me to catch my breath and get back into whatever it is I started.
I’ve shared this before in another blog, but I’ve instructed my kids on how to beat a riptide. It’s all about which direction you’re swimming. Swim to the side, past the rip current and then the ocean will take you back to shore. Unfortunately, the way most people die in a riptide is when they furiously swim towards the shore in the middle of the current. Well trained athletes have lost their lives from working so hard IN THE WRONG DIRECTION.
We have to find that balance of pace and direction. Don’t fight so furiously for something that you get overwhelmed by the fight. And know which way to go. Are you spinning your wheels for something that’s not really you? Could you put your resources into the same thing you’re doing, but just in a different way?
When I first started my band, I booked anything that I could. Didn’t matter where or what it was. It worked for awhile – got my name out there some, got me in front of people. But after a few years I realized that I was dissatisfied with playing venues that didn’t get me. I stopped booking those. I now play either for places that really want me or that I love to play. I am much happier and I feel like I’m finally connecting with the audience that gets me.
As I said yesterday, you have to know when to quit. But keep moving – change direction if you need to. Or maybe slow down your pace for awhile. Look back on how far you’ve come and realize that you’re not going to get everything immediately. And maybe you never will have what you really want. . . . but you can sure as hell enjoy doing it. Cause it’s all about the journey, eh?